Something that often happens in relationships is that we get used to accepting everything from the other person (whether they are a man or a woman) and we neglect our own needs and desires, either out of fear, dependency, habit... Or simply because we were never told that we could decide what or who we want by our side.
Yes, ask the universe, life, or whatever you believe in.
These phrases are probably echoing in your mind:
- How to find a partner at 30, 40, or 50?
- Do you want to find a partner?
- How to search for a partner?
- Where to find a partner?
- What are the best places to find a partner?
- Is finding love online possible?
But I ask you to pause and let's start from the beginning:
Do you want to find a partner?
If your answer is YES.
You can proceed with the following question:
What do you desire in a partner?
If your answer is "yes" to the question of whether you want to find a partner, it's time to explore your desires and needs in a relationship. We often limit ourselves to superficial aspects like physical appearance, but it's important to go deeper and discover what we truly need in a partner.
To begin, ask yourself what motivates you to have a romantic relationship. Each person has unique motivations when seeking a loving connection, and it's essential to understand them in order to establish a solid foundation for future relationships. This initial step will provide you with clarity and direction.
Think about the type of life partner you desire. Are you looking for someone to share your interests with, build a family, or complement your skills and talents? Consider deeper aspects as well, such as emotional compatibility and mutual happiness. Exploring these questions will reveal essential elements that influence your desires and help you seek and maintain a suitable relationship.
Defining your needs and desires can be challenging, but take the necessary time to reflect and give them names. It's similar to searching for the perfect gift for someone you love: you invest time, compare options, and establish conscious or subconscious criteria that guide your choice. Similarly, when we ask the universe for what we need in life, we must reflect and be aware of our own needs.
Ask yourself questions like:
- What do I need in a romantic relationship?
- What characteristics and qualities am I looking for in a person?
- How do I want to feel when I'm with my partner?
- What kind of relationship do I deserve?
Take the time to answer these questions without deceiving yourself. Remember, this is about you and honoring your authentic self.
I invite you to read the following text, which I'm sure will give you clues to start building your own version.
How to ask the universe for a partner? Sample letter.
Dear Universe,
Today, I come to you with a clear and firm intention: I want to manifest a loving and meaningful partner in my life. I believe in the power of the law of attraction and the ability to create my own reality, so I ask for your help in attracting that special person with whom I can share my journey.
In this quest, I have learned valuable lessons that I wish to apply in my next relationship. I'm not looking for someone who simply agrees with everything I say but someone who challenges me to grow, lovingly confronts me when necessary. I understand that true love is not about accepting everything but about becoming the best version of myself for the loved one and for myself.
*I don't expect someone perfect, but I long for someone authentic and genuine, capable of feeling intensely and loving me the way
I deserve to be loved. Just like me, I need to give my whole being and love the other person fully and consciously.*
My desire is not to find someone to fill voids in my life but to find someone who adds value and complements my existence. I long for someone who won't abandon me when difficulties and chaotic emotions arise but will encourage me to face my fears and inspire me to be braver.
In my search for love, I hope to find someone with whom I can grow and evolve. I believe that mutual growth is one of the most beautiful ways to love, and I desire to share that experience with my partner.
I dream of someone I can trust fully and love deeply. I long for a life companion who shares their dreams with mine and together we create new dreams. I want someone who remains true to their essence without losing themselves in the process of being by my side.
On my path to love, I want to find someone who holds my hand without imposing pressure or emotional limitations, someone who simply holds it as we move forward together in perfect harmony. I'm looking for a free soul who finds their freedom within mine.
In summary, I want to love and be loved. I desire a relationship based on mutual respect and reciprocity. These are my intentions, and I decree them with conviction.
Your name here...
If you're reading this post, you're likely in search of a partner or reevaluating the relationship you have. I invite you to try a new approach to this process, to dedicate time and space for yourself. If you already have a partner, I encourage you to share this post with those you believe could benefit from it.
Throughout my own journey, I have connected with my needs and what's important to me in a relationship. It has been an incredible discovery that has allowed me to avoid self-sabotage and betraying my inner self.
Remember that healthy and conscious love requires us to become aware of our history, learnings, models of love, beliefs, and choices. It's a process of self-discovery and personal growth.
I invite you to explore these questions and delve deeper into your path toward a loving and meaningful relationship. If you want more tools and resources, I encourage you to explore holistic psychology and the various approaches that can enrich your search.
Remember to love and value yourself throughout the process! If you have any questions or comments, I'm here to assist you on your journey toward authentic love.
Please feel free to leave any comments or questions below. Thank you for reading and sharing.
With love and gratitude,
Alejandra León
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