This post is written to a young man who a few days ago expressed his pain for having made "mistakes" in the past. His anguish was making him feel lost and very disappointed in himself. Mixed feelings were taking over his vital moment making him feel lonely, ashamed and sad.
This may be happening to you too.
Who of us has not been in a similar situation, where we feel we can't go on any longer, we believe there is no way out and we see ourselves as so small that we limit ourselves totally.
These words for you,
It is a symbol of humility to acknowledge that we have failed, and an act of immense love to say so. If you are aware that you have failed, not others, but yourself and this has affected others. I do not doubt that you feel alone, lost and in full confusion, many times we have felt this way; the important thing is to see with loving eyes this situation, your pain, the acts that you have committed and that have affected others in order to begin **to change them.
Really what for many is a mistake, for others is a learning process, in what place do you put yourself??
If you feel lonely and sad, look for someone who can give you a loving hug, ask for it, look for that person in your family, friends or partner, that person who can accompany you to cry and laugh, let for a moment the tears fall on your mother's shoulder as when you were a child, or with your siblings, let someone who loves you, simply listen to you and pamper you without criticizing you, ask them to simply listen to you.
It's time to believe in you, get up with the wounds in your heart and begin to heal. If you need mom or dad look for him or her, it is perhaps the same thing your children expect you to do now or in the future. Be thankful for your siblings and friends, those who "pull you by the ears", who always give you a hand and are your moral support; be thankful for those wonderful beings who are by your side to make you laugh, those who are the magic wand that manages to bring out the child in you.
I am sure you have many people by your side who support you and encourage you, let them help you get up and continue on your way learning from what has happened.
What can it do for you?
In general, it can help you to empower your inner resources and discover new tools for life.
It is about establishing a journey together, exploring your history, your shortcomings, your limitations, but above all your resources, those that live in you and that will help you get out of this painful scenario in which you are now, recognize your qualities, heal your personal and family history to move forward, find the diamond that you carry inside and put it to shine.
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What is my approach to therapy?
I work from a Humanistic approach, person-centered, with a holistic / integrative perspective For me, a loving look that recognizes all the parts, was what allowed me to recognize my own fragmentation in order to integrate myself, therefore, I have embraced it both in my personal life and in the process of accompaniment.
I could summarize by saying that it is a path of growth and maturation that is part of an accompaniment that is centered on the whole person, not on a problem.
In this sense, one of the great jobs from my role as accompanier, is to help you to understand or to recognize all your dimensions, to make a global consideration of your experience, the symptom, to support you in moments of crisis, to help you to get out of your state of anguish, to help you to overcome the guilt and to empower each one of your areas, to get out of the moment you are going through.
I invite you to take the step,
to ask for help (I know it's hard sometimes).
Give yourself a chance now to be happier,
to have a better well-being and to enhance the diamond inside you.
Thank you for reading and sharing.